What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive, controlling and violent behavior toward a partner in an intimate relationship. The behavior can take many forms from verbal abuse to threats, isolation from family and friends, intimidation, financial control, sexual or physical violence, damaging property or threatening to harm the victim’s family, pets or, even, themselves. This can happen on a regular basis, or only on occasion.

People who are abused often think they are to blame or that their situation is hopeless. If you feel this way, are being hurt or abused, it is NOT your fault and we can help.

Unsure if you are a victim of abuse? If you answer yes to any of these, you may need help. Call us. Has your partner ever:

  • Hit, kicked, shoved, strangled or hurt you in any physical way?
  • Screamed at you, put you down, threatened, ridiculed or criticized you repeatedly?
  • Been constantly or violently jealous?
  • Punched the wall or broken things in anger?
  • Consistently blamed you for their problems?
  • Used or threatened to use a gun, knife or other weapon against you?
  • Told you no one will believe you?
  • Kept you from seeing your friends or family?
  • Coerced or forced you to participate in sexual acts?
  • Kept your paycheck from you or restricted access to your money?
  • Relentlessly called, texted, IM’d, e-mailed or used other forms of technology to harass you?
  • Followed or stalked you?

Domestic violence can occur in any intimate relationship – regardless of age, ethnicity, social status, sexual orientation, or whether married or living together. Although both men and women can be victims, it is usually an issue that affects women. It occurs in both same-sex and opposite-sex relationships.

Call an Advocate at HAVEN, located at the Family Justice Center, to discuss your situation: 603.994-SAFE (7233)